OnTraveling, Autumn Leaves,Trains and Ducks

Reid, Zed, Me with Mom in the background on our trip to Vermont.

When October comes, and colorful leaves begin to drop to the ground, I’m reminded of a trip I took one year with my family to Vermont.  It would be the first time I would find myself in the Green Mountain State, not knowing that one day I would move there and spend 20 precious years living amidst its spectacular beauty.

At the time of this trip I was living at Eaton’s Neck on Long Island and in eighth grade.  My parents rarely traveled, stuck in their roles as housewife and architect/building contractor, unable to afford going very far.  Our trips were mostly to New Jersey to see an aunt, uncle and cousins or to New York City for events like the circus.  They were always day trips, and by the end of each jaunt, us kids were tired, cranky, and just wanted to be home.

Mom and dad had always wanted to see New England in its autumn glory. So on the spur of the moment, on what promised to be a beautiful Columbus Day weekend we went on our first real overnight trip together.

We spent most of our first day in the car, reaching Bennington, in Southern Vermont, just as the sun was setting.  Dad tried to find us a hotel room for the night but there were none to be had. With three starving, unhappy children, he figured a meal was really the first order of the evening. After standing in line for an hour or more, we were finally seated while tourists from all over the country who had made prior reservations,were just finishing their meals.  My brother Reid, nodded off between bites while I just wanted to go home, where I could be less than the angel I was expected to be.

After dinner we headed out again in the car, looking for a room for the night.  On the advise my father had been given by a waiter at the restaurant, we drove out into the dark countryside, looking for what dad had been told was a blue-gray, barn-like structure where we would probably be able to talk the owners into renting us a room for the night.

After many twists and turns we finally found the place and settled into one room. There didn’t seem to be any heat, though there was warm, running water in the tiny bathroom.  Suffering from exhaustion I quickly fell asleep under several layers of blankets and a coat to keep me warm.

Sometime in the night, there was a thunderous, burst of sound. The building started to shake violently and even my parents were frightened by what turned out to be a freight train traveling on tracks right next to the building. Its long throaty call giving it away as it hurtled through the dark.  It happened again several hours later and then again just before the sun found it’s way over the edge of morning.  None of us had slept very well, though it was comforting to know that what we had feared was only a train, not some man-eating giant sweeping the land clean of all children and their parents.

Grumpy as we all were, we climbed into the car to try to find some breakfast.  It was a cold, sunny morning with silvery frost plating the grasses, goldenrod and other late-season wild flowers growing along the side of road.  Around a sharp turn we stopped to watch a cow in a small field, giving birth to her calf. Its small placenta encased body slipping into the chill of a new day.  The mother licked the calf clean as it wobbled to its legs, quickly finding the pink bag filled with warm, creamy milk.

We successfully found a place for breakfast, and spent the day wandering the narrow roads of what seemed like another country.  The leaves were brilliant in crayola colors: reds, orange, golds and yellow. A breathtaking painting of mountains, fields, and sky we drove right into.  We stopped at covered bridges, historical markers and began learning the history of this place, imagining what it might be like in the winter months buried deep in snow.  We found a small roadside mom and pop kind of restaurant, not bulging with rest of the world, and a slightly battered motel where we would spend the night before heading home the next day.  Here in the middle of some unknown land, I had my first taste of what real silence was.

The next evening, we arrived back home in time to feed the dog and three ducks that we had been given on the previous Easter by a friend.  They had grown from fuzzy yellow ducklings into sleek white adults over the summer months.  They layed eggs in odd corners of the yard and mom would gather them, giving them to the milkman in trade for milder chicken eggs.

My grandparents had agreed to visit while we were gone, to check on and feed the dog and the ducks.  The dog met us with a happy tail and little yelps welcoming us back, but the ducks were nowhere to be found.  Mom called my grandparents who told her that the ducks had disappeared the first day we were gone.  We searched, called neighbors and had no clue as to what might have happened to them. I grieved, missing their quack-chatter when they followed me around the yard.

It wasn’t until the following Sunday, when we went to my grandparent’s home for dinner that I understood what had happened.  After playing in the yard for a while, we were called in to a dinner of roast duck.  Needless to say, I refused to eat.  The pangs of hunger more welcome than the crisp taste of friendship.

P.S.  The ducks mentioned here are not the same ducks mentioned in my last post.

Home Again!

I’m back again after a wonderful week away from the stuff of home.  I had planned on writing and continuing my exercise routine, but that didn’t happen!!  Sometimes it is very necessary to just sit back, relax and ride the river of life.  It was great fun.  I took part in and thoroughly enjoyed one of Lisa’s Dream Wheel workshops,  read, visited with friends, napped, ate too well, saw two good movies (Beginners and Submarine), played Parchese, watched as Zoe and Noah had a swimming lesson.  They spent one night with us and we had a great time reading tales of Brer Rabbit, together, each one of us enacting a different character.  I loved being hugged, kissed and adored by my grandkids. We laughed lots and enjoyed the cool mountain air of Western North Carolina.  While it was over 100 degrees and humid here at home, it was in the upper 80’s and much drier in the mountains.  On the drive home yesterday, I was well aware of how altitude keeps us cooler.

Clara, Myself, and Patti.

Very special Noah!

Zoe, growing toward adulthood way too fast!

The only down part was watching the debacle of our law makers playing, Let’s Make A Deal.  I found the following quote in my mail box today and thought of them.  And that’s being polite about how I feel.

Mindlessness, however petty, is reckless at its heart. It only postpones; it never takes us anywhere. Mindfulness, by contrast, is patient, careful. It takes a longer view.

Joan Duncan Oliver

Getting Ready For A Breather

Sam is ready to take a break!

I’m getting ready to go on vacation.  We were planning on taking the dogs with us, but with temperatures predicted to be 100 degrees + on travel day and beyond, we’ve decided that they are much better off here at home with one of their favorite people who is coming to stay with them.  Both Sam and Molly are sad about being left behind, but once they realize they can get away with much more staying here at home with Bobbie, they’ll forgive us, I’m sure.  Maybe next time in cooler weather, they’ll come along with us.

So I’ll take a break from the blog for a week or so, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be doing some writing.  I’m taking some books to read, a beading project to work on and figure I’ll spend the rest of my time vegging or visiting with friends and family.  I’m really looking forward to getting away for a bit and coming home reinspired to get back to work.  Right now I have the mid-summer lazies and feel like doing absolutely nothing.   Don’t worry, I’m not taking all that stuff in the photo, especially the Tide.  That photo was taken a few years back when we were getting ready for a 2 week beach trip.  Both canines came along with us that time.  Sam had no intention of being left behind.

Miss Molly loves to share my space.

Happy mid-summer one and all!

Encaustic Work

Untitled Encaustic Painting, copyright Joan Z. Rough 2011

Home again and almost caught up with all that I’ve been ignoring since I left. Unfortunately we’ve had no rain for well over a week and the garden is calling for lots of attention.  I’ve chosen drought tolerant plants for the most part and that does make things a bit easier.  I’m having a rain barrel installed next week so that should make it even better.  That is if we ever get more rain.

I promised some of you that I’d post photos of the encaustic work I did over Memorial Day weekend at the workshop I attended at BookWorks in Asheville, North Carolina.  It was a fantastic  weekend and I’ve found myself very excited by the technique and the possibilities it holds.  I’m planning on getting to work with lots of experiments in the days to come once I finally gather the equipment and materials I need.

Encaustic is an ancient technique using beeswax melted and mixed with Damar Resin to create the medium or paint.  Dry pigments or oil paint is then added to create the colors one desires and the paint is then applied to an absorbent ground, such as wood, cloth or paper.  The wax mixture is allowed to harden slightly and is then fused to the ground material using a heat gun, iron or blow torch.  More layers of paint can be applied as well as found objects, like paper, shells and trinkets of all kinds.  For me it is all about layering, texture, collaging …. almost what ever I want to do.

The piece pictured above was my first and started with a layer of red medium, over which I applied a number of layers of differing colors including white, blue, green and yellow. Once the paint had hardened I began scraping it away revealing bits of the colors that had been applied before the final coat.  I spotted a blob of wax at on the table where the wax had dripped as I had applied it to the board.  I pulled it up off the table, fused it in the center of the scraped painting and there, above is the final result.

The next piece is actually a spontaneous collaboration between by myself and my wonderful teacher Celia Gray.  She had been layering colors on a board inspired by the work of another artist as shown in a book on encaustics that I had brought along.   Near the end of the class on the final day another student in the class needed an extra piece of wood to work on.  Celia softened the wax on the board she’d been using with a blow torch, called me over and suggested I start using the layers she was about to scrape away to making the board available for the other student.  As she scraped, the warm medium came away in thick, rippled ribbons of color which I picked up and began applying to a board I’d just started with a layer of white paint.  I pressed them down on to the board and then curled the remaining ribbons into rolls and placed them down the center of the piece.  The result is pictured below.

My next experiments will be with collage.  I’ll keep you posted as I go along!

Close-up of untitled encaustic, a collaboration with Celia Gray, May, 2011

Alice In Wonderland

A few weeks ago I tumbled down a rabbit hole and found myself on the streets of New York City! I went by train accompanied by my sweet man and one terrible cold that wouldn’t seem to make up its mind as to where to land … in my head or in my chest.  I had spent 2 days prior to leaving considering whether or not I should go, having relapsed into a cold I thought I was over a few weeks beforehand.  But armed with my Doc’s blessing and some chinese herbs I decided to give it a whirl. The train was paid for along with tickets to 3 broadway shows.

By the time we arrived in the city, my symptoms were worse and I was regretting my decision.  But once we checked into our hotel and took a walk in nearby Bryant Park I was feeling so much better.  It was a beautiful 70 degree afternoon, laughing children rode painted ponies on the carousel, pink tulips were in full bloom and a street drummer around the corner on 5th played to a crowd of onlookers, each of us moving in our own ways to his magical beat.  Here I was in the Big Apple in all of its busy glory and it was difficult not to get swept up in its seductive splendor.  We decided to stay in that first night to give me some healing time.  Usually we’d be out looking for a good film that presumably might never make it to Charlottesville, but that night my tired body gave up and shut down at 9:30.

I have not always loved New York.  Until I graduated from high school on Long Island, I adored it.  It was where my dad took us Christmas shopping every December, where I first went to the circus and where there seemed to be so many adventures afoot.  In my senior year my parents actually allowed me to take the train into the city all by myself to meet a friend.  I got dressed up in my finest and met her under the clock in Grand Central Station.  From there we walked up 5th Avenue, ate lunch in a swanky cafe, shopping as we went along.  I bought a pair of shoes my father deemed a waste of money.  But I was thrilled with them and the opportunity to play at being a grown woman for a day in what I thought was the most amazing city in the world.

After graduating from high school I immediately moved to Vermont where I went to college.  I got married the weekend after my college graduation and then lived in Vermont for the next 18 or so years.  I didn’t make it back to the Big Apple much but when I did, I felt it was a crushing experience.  If you’ve ever lived in the rural north you’ll know what I mean. New York equals too many people, too much frenetic energy.  Not something I was used to by that time.  I have difficulty with crowds and the population of New York does nothing but grow. However, my fondness for The City That Never Sleeps is returning.  Even not feeling 100% well I loved every minute this last trip.

The day after we arrived I was still feeling under the weather, but we walked up 5th Avenue to the Plaza Hotel where an outdoor exhibit by Ai Weiwei, was in place.  He is the Chinese artist recently detained by the Chinese government and has only this past week been allowed to see his wife.  The Chinese authorities are once again at work silencing dissidents who speak their truths and Weiwei has been very active on that front.  Works by Weiwei are being exhibited in a number of venues around the world at the moment and his arrest has done nothing but make the Chinese government’s actions more obvious and his work more popular.  There is nothing controversial about the work we saw.  The pieces are simply bronze sculptures of characters in the Chinese Zodiac, beautifully executed.

Besides seeing two movies and three astounding plays we skipped the usual gallery routine and played first time in New York tourists.  The weather was spectacular so getting me inside for lengthy periods of time was difficult.  We went to the Central Park Zoo, the Top of the Rock and the wonderful farmers Market at Union Square.

The last day we were there was the most rewarding for me. We had gone to see the matinée performance of Jerusalem, a play that was definitely not my cup of tea.  (Look on my husband’s blog at View in the Dark to read his critical responses to all of the shows we saw and the movies, too. )  I was very disturbed by the play and needed to just sit and talk.  We stopped to have dinner at a restaurant on 45th St. between Broadway and 6th Avenue, across from a fairly new boutique hotel.  We were seated in a large window looking out on the street and the hotel entryway.

While we were leisurely discussing and enjoying well prepared steaks and accoutrements, I noticed an older woman going through large garbage bags near the hotel entrance.  She was dressed in simple but immaculately clean clothing and did not look like your average homeless woman.  She had no bags full of belongings with her and no vessel for collecting money. She and the maintenance man who was bringing out more garbage bags, seemed to be acquainted.

Being a shy type and very much an introvert, it’s difficult for me to go about striking up a conversation with just anyone on the streets of New York, especially a homeless woman who might very well not appreciate my approaching her and who might be … you know, crazy or something. Talking to homeless people can be a problem among the Haves of our country.  It almost seems as though we believe that simply making a connection with them will somehow make the needy person’s situation contagious and we’ll instantly become Have-nots. We can’t face the possibility that we may someday be in the same situation.

As I sat there enjoying my evening meal, I watched as numerous people passed by this aging woman on their way over to Broadway, without giving her a glance.  I decided that I needed to acknowledge her, to let her know that she was part of this glorious world we live in, even as she suffered.

After we finished our dinner I crossed the street and started talking with her.  I noticed she was not collecting scraps of food but empty soda bottles and cans for their refund value of 5 cents apiece and that the maintenance man was handing her the most promising bags of trash.  I told her my name and started asking her questions.  She stopped her work, smiled at me, introducing herself as Alice and that she sometimes liked to call herself Alice in Wonderland.  Looking to be near my age but tad older, she told me that she was a retired nurse and had grown up in an orphanage in Austria.  She said that she was going through tough times, but she knew she’d get back on top soon.  She thanked me and seemed very grateful for my stopping to speak to her.  I gave her a hug and a few dollars and she asked where she might find me so she could repay me one day.  I told her that it wasn’t necessary and that I’d always be thinking of her.  I’ve kept my promise.  A day doesn’t go by that I don’t see her on the busy streets of New York collecting bottles and cans so that she can get through her days and back on top.

I don’t expect an award for doing what I did, but I do acknowledge that my stopping to chat with her was something new for me. My courage is growing.  Alice is someone with a message for the rest of us who enjoy our lives filled far too many things.  Alice is no drug addict or crazy person.  She is a proud, hard-working woman with needs, living in a society that too often passes her by, not recognizing her presence, not willing to help.