The Lovely Blog Award

 

Clash of the Season, November, 2014

Clash of the Season, November, 2014

Over the last month I have been nominated three times for a Lovely Blog Award. With life being the roller coaster that it is, it’s taken me until now to publicly say a big thank you to each of the following women for doing me that honor. Thank you to: Kathy Pooler, Mary Gottschalk, and Janet Givens. I so appreciate your encouraging support.

This award is wonderful way to honor folks we admire.  There are what are called “rules” but they’re easy and no one who is nominated must respond or take part in moving it forward if they choose not to. This is not meant to overwhelm or make more work for anyone.

The rules:

Name and thank those who nominated you.

Share 7 things about yourself that others may not know.

Nominate 15 bloggers (or as many as you like) that you would like to pass the nomination on to.

Contact those bloggers and let them know that you have nominated them.

Just remember, we all know how life is and that we all sit in the shadow of overwhelm. So forgive my lateness in responding and let me say to those that I nominate below, that this is just my way of saying, “I love you and your blog. You don’t need to do anything more except keep blogging.”

Seven things about me:

1. Yesterday I turned 72 years old. I was born on November 17th, 1942, nine months after my parents married on Valentine’s Day of that same year.

2. My maiden name is Zabski, hence the Z. as my middle initial. In means FROG in Polish. I collect frogs of all sorts … not live ones. In junior high my friends called me “Froggy.”

3. Bill, my husband, and I will celebrate our 50th year of marriage on June 19, 2015. We dated each other for two years before we got married and we still love each other madly, most of the time. 🙂

4. I have two kids, Mark and Lisa. Lisa has presented me with 2 grandkids, Zoe and Noah. Mark has brought me a step-granddaughter, Casey McCarty.

5. Bill doesn’t allow me to go to the SPCA alone. My secret wish has been to have a place where I can take in homeless animals … dogs, cats, horses, whatever shows up. I’m doing my best with 2 dogs and 1 cat on a city lot. Beyond that, divorce. 🙁

6. I can be a bit of an overachiever. In fitness classes I often injure myself because I think I can do what the 25 year old working out next to me is doing.

7. I’m a bookaholic. If you need some reading material, come visit and take some books with you when you leave. But only the ones I’ve already read.

Now it’s time to pay the honor forward to other bloggers. I follow these folks on a regular basis. They inspire me and bring me new things to contemplate every time they blog. I hope you’ll visit them and enjoy them as much as I do.

Marian Beaman, at plainandfancygirl.com
Val Boyko, at findyourmiddleground.com
Laurie Buchanan, at tuesdayswithlaurie.com
Linda Hoye, at lindahoye.com
Jeri Leach, at arunningriver.wordpress.com
Jennifer Louden, at jenniferlouden.com
Sherrey Meyer, at sherreymeyer.com
Lisa Rough, (my daughter), at sacredcirclecreativelife.com
Becca Rowan, at beccarowan.com
Dorothy Sanders, at agingabundantly.com
Shirley Showalter, at shirleyshowalter.com
Krista Tippet, at onbeing.org

 

 

 

My Recipe For Writing A Book

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When winter knocks at the door I love to cook soups and stews. They can take a long time to simmer allowing the goodness and flavor of the ingredients to be released into the pot.  Writing a book can be like that, too.

I’m over on Sherrey Meyer’s blog today with a guest post with a list of ingredients and the recipe I used to keep myself working on my book. I hope you enjoy it.

On Being A Teacher And A Student

Me with yesterdays class of third graders at Meriwether Lewis Elementary School.

Me with yesterdays class of third graders at Meriwether Lewis Elementary School.

“Ooh! I have an idea!,” one boy with expressive brown eyes said, as his third grade classmates waved their hands, eager to get their own ideas out and up on the board as options for a story we would begin writing together.

I was at a local elementary schools where student teacher, Kassandra Hoffmeister, had invited me to come and talk to her class about writing. She had been told by another student teacher, Yarden Batson, about my visit with her class just a few weeks earlier.

I had met Yarden, earlier when I was looking for a house sitter. She came highly recommended and when she found out that I was a writer, with a Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education, she asked if I’d visit her classroom to talk with the kids about writing. Having been away from a classroom setting for what seems like hundreds of years, I eagerly said yes. Not only did I want to step back in time a bit, I’d been concerned that students aren’t given much of a chance to write creatively these days. I thought going into the classroom to inspire kids to write would be a great way to give back to the world of creativity that I have been blessed being a part of.

When someone discovers that I am an artist as well as a writer, they often say, “I don’t have a creative bone in their body.” In response, I jump on my soapbox and try to convince them that they most likely haven’t given themselves a chance.

Creativity isn’t just for those who want to dance, paint, compose music, or write poetry. Everyone is blessed with “creative bones.” Those bones just need to be nurtured.

Creative thinkers rule the world even in science and math departments. Without the ability to step outside of the box, Steve Jobs would never have come up with the computer I’m using to write this blog post. Alexander Graham Bell wouldn’t have invented the telephone, which now is something we all carry around in our pockets. Even the process of designing and constructing an environmentally friendly buildings is a creative act that gets those involved asking questions that no one has pondered before.

The easiest way to nurture creative thinking is to start early. A toddler’s first crayons help him or her to discover the world of color as they move their hands, spreading red, yellow and blue onto a piece of paper. Each piece of paper is the masterpiece of a young mind that hasn’t been strangled by the rule that one must color within the lines.

On my first visit to a third grade classroom, I took a cue from my husband, Bill, an actor, director, and a playwright. I used a story telling exercise he often uses with a newly assembled cast to help them get comfortable with each other and their new roles.

First, I helped the kids create a list of characters they felt drawn to tell a story about. We then worked on a list of settings in which a character might be found. The third list was made up of things the character wants or needs. The fun continues as the children vote on which character the story should be about, where the story is taking place, and the problem the character needs to solve. Sometimes other characters and settings are included as the story takes shape.

In the first class I worked with, the kids began developing a story about a young elephant visiting a football stadium, in hopes of being gifted with his favorite player’s jersey. Yesterday’s class came up with a California Sea Otter, named Jason, who found himself in a portal to the ancient world, where he hoped to find some cotton candy. We can laugh all we want at what seems like a crazy combination of story parts, but these kids are amazing at coming up with story lines that somehow make sense and that gets them started on a path that just might help them one day become creative geniuses.

At the end of my time with them, they’ve not only started the writing process, but we’ve usually had time to talk a little bit about titles, the structure of a paragraph, and the concept of the beginning, the middle and the end of their story. Later in the afternoon after I’m gone, each child finishes writing their own version of the story they started creating together.

What I find to be so much fun, is their enthusiasm and their willingness to leave what makes sense behind, as they jump freely into a world where they can be who they are and need to be. We older, stuck folks could learn a lot from watching them.

I believe that when a teacher stands in front of a classroom of children, the teacher becomes the student, as he or she has the opportunity to be introduced back into a world of creative being, that we too often leave behind as we get older and learned to color within the lines.

Traveling, Stories, and Change

Double rainbow over Lake Champlain, Burlington, Vermont. By, Z. Thomas Zabski

Double rainbow over Lake Champlain, Burlington, Vermont. Photo by my brother,  Z. Thomas Zabski

I’ve been off traveling in Vermont for the past six days.  I visited with my brother, my nephew and neices,  friends, old and new, and soaked in the essence that only Vermont offers at this time of year.

I tried and tried again to capture the colors of the leaves with my camera, but finally gave up.  Like the Grand Canyon that I gave up photographing years ago, there are some things it is best to experience rather than capture.  We may think we can capture it all on film, but we can only really capture it in our hearts through the thrill of being there.

Right now I need to catch up on bill paying, the laundry, and the everyday details of survival in the twenty-first century.

Next week I ‘ll be back with a story about seeing my college room mate after some twenty-five years and how we became known as the “Ski Twins,” in the old days.

***Please notice on my website, that I have changed the first chapter of my book.  This “new” chapter was what I considered my first chapter at the time I began writing. After lots of editing and advice, I’ve decided to put it back in the number one spot.***

 

 Facebook friend, Janet Givens on the left and the love of my life, Bill, on the right.  I forget which one of us took it!

Facebook friend, Janet Givens on the left and the love of my life, Bill, on the right. I forget which one of us took it!

 

***My revisions are coming along splendidly and hopefully I’ll have my final draft finished by the first of December.  I’ll keep you posted along the way.***

Expert Or Storyteller?

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In much of the reading I do to stay tuned in on how to have a lot of followers on my blog and build a following for my upcoming memoir, it is said that you need to be an expert on what you are writing about.

My Scrivener dictionary describes an expert as someone who is, “a person who has a comprehensive and authoritative knowledge of or skill in a particular area: experts in child development | a financial expert.”

In order to be an expert, you have to know about something a lot of other people don’t know about and need or want instruction in. Like how to train your dog so that he or she won’t attack the mailman, or how to make a loaf of sour dough bread that tastes heavenly.

In Australian Locker Hooking, A New Approach to a Traditional Craft, the first book I wrote and published back in 1980, I was definitely taking on the role of an expert. My book was an instruction manual with photographs and technical drawings on how to use raw wool that has been freshly shorn to make beautiful hand made rugs. I was an authority. Those who bought my book wanted to know how to make the things I made, often from the wool of their own sheep.

Now I’m writing a memoir.  ME, MYSELF AND MOM, a Journey Through Love, Hate and Healing, is about a portion of my life, during which I invited my mother to come live with my husband and me. Her health was failing, and she needed care. I was not an expert on eldercare when I invited her into my home, and when she died seven years later, I was still not an expert on eldercare.

Seven more years have passed, and I still don’t feel as though I am an ”expert” on eldercare, or how to build a relationship with an aging parent. If you read my book and try to follow what I did in order deal with your aging parent, you could be making many BIG mistakes and end up hating me for sending you in the wrong direction. What works for one person, most often doesn’t work for another.

In my mind, writing memoir is rather like being a scribe or a storyteller. It’s a record of what happened from the writer’s perspective.  It is not necessarily a how-to-book.

When I read memoir, my favorite genre, I am interested in being told a story and being inspired by how a particular person managed to get through a certain period of time in their lives. I am not interested in learning the steps they took to arrive where they are today. What I want, is to know is that I am not alone in my happiness or travails.

Making difficult decisions about how to care for aging parents is something many of us will face, as we ourselves grow older. As I continue to rewrite my memoir, my intention is to inspire adult children who may be taking on that tricky journey, while they try to go about living their own lives. It’s a difficult task.

Mine is the story of why and how I tried to care for my mother. As hard as it was,  I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to learn so much about myself and human nature.

Are you an expert or a storyteller? How do you feel about being one or the other?